MANILA.... HERE I COME!!!!!

I'm flying! I'm flying again!....

GINGER!!! I'm coming to you!!! It's been awhile since we met!!! YEEEEEEHA!!!! but the sad part is, I'll have to wake up at 3.30am to catch the flight! URRGGGHHHH!!! But it's worth it!

DREAM A LITTLE DREAM

Have you ever had nightmares? Have you ever had dreams that repeats itself more than once? How about having a dream which seems so real where you can’t even differentiate between a dream and a reality. How many times when you wake up feeling happy? And how many times being miserable? Does a dream affects your mood and emotions for the rest of the day?

What does all these dreams mean? Did we ever realize that most dreams that we have, delivers a message to us indirectly. Unfortunately, many times, we tend to forget what we dreamt about as we go about our daily routine. Sometimes, with recurring dreams, the message may be so important or powerful that it just will not go away. And this is where your emotions will be affected. The frequent repetition of such dreams forces you to pay attention and confront the dream. The dream is trying desperately to tell you something. That is why you have bad dreams.

One does states that our dream sometimes has access to information that is not readily available to you when you are awake. Basically your dream mind is anticipating the reality to you. Your dreams may reveal your secret desires and subconscious feelings.

In remembering our dreams, we’ll have an increased knowledge about ourselves, bring about self awareness and self healing. Dreams are an extension of how we perceive ourselves. They can be a source of inspiration, wisdom and joy.

Apparently, learning to recall our own dreams may help us become a more assertive person. In remembering our dreams, we are expressing and confronting our feelings. Remembering our dreams can help us come to terms with the stressful aspects of our lives.

So the question is, are dreams our friend or our enemy now?

THIS IS HOW I WILL DIE

How will I die? Your Result: You will die while saving someone's life.   The most noble of all deaths. Your rewards will be great in the next life. You are most definitely a humanitarian. If not currently, you will be. To give one's life is a precious moment that will be remembered by friends and family for many decades.
You will die while having sex.
You will die in a nuclear holocaust.
You will be murdered.
You will die in a car accident.
You will die in your sleep.
You will die from a terminal illness.
You will die of boredom.
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HOW MUCH PARTY ANIMAL ARE YOU?

You are 50% Party Animal!

 

You are just middle of the road. Don't party too hard, nor too soft. Kinda like wallpaper, you are there, but no-one really knows why.... Becareful else it's townie town you will go...

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HOW DO ONE OPEN IT'S HEART AGAIN?

Everyone who has ever loved, has been hurt. Sadly, those who have never been hurt in a relationship, have probably never learned to love, and never allowed themselves to become vulnerable. Love by nature and definition is the giving of oneself to another. As hard as it is for us to face, true love is a gamble. That, my friend, is what makes it precious and golden. If we could wave a magic wand and suddenly cause love and loving to be made easy and risk free, it would be cheepened and very unfulfilling. With these thoughts in mind we can now proceed to scrutinize the answer to the question: "Once I have been hurt, how do I open my heart again?"

Pain! Pain closed it? Rejection, misunderstanding, unappreciation, mistrust, out and out abuse, and even death can shut your heart.
That may seem like such an obvious answer to the average person. The truth is, pain is manifest in different ways in different people. The reason I start here is because the ever present memory of this pain is going to be the greatest obstacle in the way of opening up again. But let's remember, pain is present for a reason. It is sending us a message about ourselves and showing us that something is amiss.

There was a person in my life once that I loved deeply. And the reason I loved her so intensley was because I had risked opening up to her completely. That gamble brought us close for a time, but I never quite opened up totally. That intensified her own insecurities and a need to control me. This caused pain deep inside me. A pain so intense that I withdrew from further control and rejection, and the relationship disintergrated. What closed my heart was ultimate rejection and loss of trust and intimacy. Far too many debilitating memories from my past were triggered and my own maladjusted patterns of dealing with pain caused me to turn on the one I thought was hurting me.

Look at your situation(s). Look at it honestly. What closed your heart? What were you and are you protecting yourself from?

One of the greatest dangers in life is that we repeat the exact same mistakes over and over again in our significant relationships. One of the most basic definitions of insanity is doing the same things again and again and expecting different results. It isn't enough to acknowledge what it was that closed your heart, you must then learn from that pain. It was Euripides the great philosopher who once said that "we pay a high price for being intelligent. Wisdom hurts."
I learned two things about myself from the heart closing experience I described above. Number one, I have a compelling need to open up and share myself with someone in an intimate manner. Nothing ever felt more complete. But, on the other hand, the second thing I learned was that I abhor feeling as though I am being manipulated and controlled. If I was to ever open my heart again I knew that it would have to be with someone who was secure in themselves to the point that they don't need to control me.

Again, look at your life. Take a good look at the heart closer and learn from it. Don't go right out and make the exact same mistake again. But instead...

Once you have determined what you need and don't need, as well as what you can offer and cannot offer, proceed with caution. There are a lot of people who have no clue about themselves. In order to have a significant person in their lives they will temporarily become what they think you need. But it won't last because they aren't being true to themselves.
If you have honestly answered the first two quesitons then you are ready and should be confident enough to move forward. But don't settle for second best or you will have the same results again. Take the time to get past the masks that we all wear for protection and learn more about yourself and other people. Many people will do one of two things. They will either go out and find someone just like the person who closed their hearts or they will go out and find someone who is the total opposite. Proceed with caution. Just open your heart with someone who is neither extreme.

If you have made it this far you are probably wondering, "Why should I open my heart up to someone? It will just mean more pain." To which I assert, "Yes, that is possible." Because of her thirst for life and understanding, one of my all time favorite persons is Helen Keller. Ms. Keller once said, "Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold" (Let Us Have Faith, 1940).

Someone else once said, "It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." That's it! That is what makes love so special. Love is special because it doesn't come easy and if it does, it won't stay with the same ease. Love is a decision, a commitment, and requires a strong determination. Please notice that I did not say that love is a feeling. Love provides many powerful feelings, but if what you have had in the past was based on a feeling then it was not love at all.

In spite of the pain that I have experienced in my life, I have golden treasures from the love that I have experienced. They are treasures that neither time nor any person can take from me. If you can look down inside yourself and see the joy and warmth that you shared at one time and know that it can be even better, even if you don't feel it now, you will start to open up your heart once again. Love is worth the risk. Just don't repeat the same mistakes. My mistake was in reacting to pain with distance, hatefulness, and even dishonesty. I've learned to deal with pain now with the truth-- regardless of the results.

Adversity and pain are part of everyone's life. How you deal with that pain is determined in your own heart. We are the ones who consciously determine which way we will go. To paraphrase Ella Wheeler Wilcox's poem, "The Winds of Fate:"

One ship sails east
One ship sails west
Regardless of how the winds blow.
It is the set of the sail
And not the gale
That determines the way we go.


You will begin to open your heart again when you understand your pain and when you have learned vital lessons from your pain. Your heart will open as you proceed with your eyes wide open. But most importantly, you will begin to open your heart again when you realize that love is a very precious commodity that is worth pursuing, cherishing, and taking a chance on.

I dedicate this page to someone I love most..... my mom!

REBOUND RELATIONSHIPS DATING ADVICE

What exactly is a rebound relationship or dating on the rebound? It’s an intense dating relationship that begins very soon after a long-term relationship goes south. As one experienced single person described it: “A rebound relationship is kinda like jumping from one moving train to another. There’s no time for thinking about what you are about to do. Rebound dating is both exciting and dangerous at the same time.” Now that sounds intense!

The fact is, rebound relationships get bad marks from most single women and men who have tried them. The reason is that instead of being that perfect medicine for mending a broken heart, most rebound relationships fail, and consequently cause more pain for both dating partners.

If you are in a rebound dating relationship now, or just thinking about entering one, consider the following dating advice tips in order to protect yourself:

Rebound Relationship Advice for Those Dating on the Rebound
Rebound Relationships Tip 1: Only Fools Rush In

Ending one relationship and rebounding immediately into the next one, is not healthy for you, or fair to the other person. The reason for this is that you need time to grieve and heal before truly being emotionally ready for a new person.

While it’s natural to feel vulnerable and needy immediately after a breakup or divorce, fight the temptation to rebound so quickly into a new dating situation. It may dull your pain, but slow your healing.

Instead, take this time to evaluate what went wrong in the previous relationship, and think about how you can improve yourself for the next.

Rebound Relationships Tip 2: Get Counsel and Accountability

Before taking the plunge into a rebound relationship, get wise counsel from people who know and love you, and who can keep you accountable to making sound judgements.

Unfortunately, people involved in rebound relationships often seek a “quick fix” for their pain and damaged self-esteem. This leaves the rebound dater open for sexual and emotional manipulation by unsavory types who actually prey on the broken hearted.

Another problem with dating on the rebound is that people who do this tend to seek out the same type of person in the previous relationship, which predictably ends with the same results. That’s why it’s important to have several people who can help keep you centered during your healing process.

Rebound Relationship Advice for the Person Dating the Rebounder
Know the Odds
If you’re looking for a long-term commitment, dating in a rebound relationship is definitely not the thing to do. Do not enter a dating relationship with someone you know who:

- Has been out of their previous relationship less than a year

- Has shown by their words and behavior that they are not over their previous relationship

If you are dating a rebounder as decribed above, the chances are great that you a just a “transitory” person. Once the rebounder in the rebound relationship emotionally heals, they usually end up leaving the other person.

Don’t Let your Guard Down

This is usually not good advice, especially if you are attempting to build an emotionally intimate friendship. However, for your own protection, take it very slow with the rebounder, honestly explaining to him or her that you do not want to be a rebound relationship statistic.

This will take lots of self-control because rebound daters are very needy people who will attempt to fill the void, and blunt the pain in their lives by getting real close, real soon. Don’t take the bait, and save yourself much pain.

If you are a single person, feel free to share your experiences with rebound relationships.

TOPICS NOT FOR DISCUSSIONS (FIRST DATE RULES)

I read this from an article and found it very true. My dear pals, please have a read on this. It may help you date better.

You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Therefore, what happens on a first date can set the course of your future. If you want to ensure that your first date is a hit and leads to a second, then you may want to curb your topic of conversation and stay away from some issues that are sure to stir up the waters of debate. Controversy is not a great subject for first date dinner discussions (unless both parties are members of a debate team) but even then, it would be better to stick with general and more pleasant dialogue. Here are some issues that should be avoided at all cost when on a first date.



Religious and political topics are great for ending a relationship before it ever has a chance to begin. If you are strongly religious, then you may want to narrow your dating choices to people of like faith. Trying to convert your date on the first encounter never leads to a positive outcome. Debating the differences between Muslims, Christians, and Jews are not generally recommended topic starters. If you have strong core religious or political beliefs, it is best to choose to date others with similar values. This is the best way to prevent any areas of conflict and prevent a disastrous evening experienced by both parties.

Let me say, this in no way means that people of different faiths or political convictions cannot be involved in a relationship together. If you are open minded and feel that you can enter into a dating relationship with someone of a different belief system, then obviously this advice isn’t for you. However, if you feel that you can only be in a relationship with someone who shares the same core values that you do, it is advisable to date people who already have similar values rather than try to “change” someone.


Talking about past relationships is a definite turn off. Your date should feel as if he or she is the most important person in the room, not the mysterious ex who broke your heart. If you feel compelled to talk about your ex on your date, it may be a sign that you are not ready for a new relationship. In fact, your date may recognize this and decline to go out with you a second time. Your date should be postive and avoid all talk of ex’s, divorces, or failed relationships.

Though it may seem easy to talk about current events or the news, these topics tend to bring the conversation to a negative place. There isn’t much positive in the news these days and your goal is to keep the conversation friendly and on a cheerful tone. Try discussing less heated topics, such as the restaurant you are dining at, the food they serve, places you like to go for entertainment, your family, what you are studying, or even your job. Remember to ask questions about your date and don’t just talk about yourself. By keeping the topic positive and upbeat, you can ensure that you will receive that second date.

LET'S LOVE ONE ANOTHER

Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat...We must find each other.

Mother Teresa

SLIPPERY SENORITA!

Something ticklish happened to me. I so wanna share it with you guys. I called up a gym to ask about their current promotion that they have. To my utmost surprise, the same sales consultant spoke to one of my colleague just hours before. So I went up to that colleague and asked her "eh... err... I hear you osso wanna join gym ar?" She asked me "har... how you know ar? That fella is so longwinded, all I need to know is, HOW MUCH IT COST!" Well... I agreed on it as well and informed her why not let the 2 of us gang up and secure a good deal.

Being as kiasu as we are, she suddenly came up to me towards the end of the day, and wrote a long list of names to me and said "Hey, here's the list of names. This and that is already a member, that and this would be a potential customer list. Let's corner them for a corporate package" Then i went, "WoW u r really fast! Am pretty surprised! hahahah... bud den hor.. your list is too short, let me gather more.." and straight away I went up to my superior and said "Sir, your body is getting out of shape. I think you need to start working out too" and then my colleague then said "I think so too". We burst out laughing as that superior of mine does not have an ounce of fat.

The whole situation was so farnee.. .Anyhow, am gonna work for a good corporate package. WE WANT LESS THAN RM 100!!!

I admit.. I admit. I am Si Pek Kia Su and Kiam Siap! Can't help it one hokay!! It's money we're talking about here...heheheheh

Hence, if the deal goes thru and everyone signs up, one day, the people will then come to us not to buy tires but to find talents! We're kinda good looking one ... just wanna make ourselves hotter!

PS: I'm gonna be killed tomorrow for posting this! Bochap lah....

UNCONTROLLABLE STATE OF MIND

I want to know true peace of mind, but how do I step out of my frantic world long enough to realize it? Can you give me some practical suggestions for staying in the present moment and observing myself?

I've been in a complete tumultous state of mind these past weeks. I've been thinking about my current condition, my way of conduct, my feelings, based on past thoughts, the decisions taken based either for good or for bad, the meaning of my glorious and deprived days.

My level of acceptance of behaviour I thought belittling has changed over the years. I've seen that maybe this is the way the society also conducted themselves, but I was too ignorant to take notice as I had grandiose delusions about their existence.

I need to have a good thought on things. Peace of mind is definitely required.....

A SMILE

Tip toeing in your bedroom,
without making a peep,
Gazing down, I see you there,
lying fast asleep.

I'm taking pen to paper,
and leaving you a note,
going slow, so you can read,
just what it was I wrote.

Could you see what I was thinking,
when you gazed into my eyes?
Or did I give myself away,
with the tempo of my sighs?

There will be moments,
when chaos and confusion engulfs me
When deadlines and deals loom large,
when I forget who I am and what is real

When I forget what is truly important,
then clarity strikes
And when I remember that there is you
then I will stop and smile...

And the smile, is meant for you.

THE MOMENT YOU BELIEVE

Time to face what you are hiding from,
Don't have to do this on your own,
You know that being together we can be very strong,
And we don't really need anyone,
No matter what people say,
Together we can fight,
Show everyone we're right,
I don't care what they say,
Our time has come.

I'm ready now,
To start a new beginning.
With all our hopes and all our dreams,
And I know the stars will shine for you,
And for me,
From the moment you believe

When you believe there's nothing you can't overcome,
When you believe the earth is brighter than the sun,
I believe.


All our dreams can come true- if we have the courage to pursue them.

It might be hard.. the road might be so long and you might lose
your energy sometimes and get it back after awhile .. Yet it is
possible to make them true.. BELIEVE is all what you need to do.

And it's definite that I believe in you...

WHAT IS LIFE ALL ABOUT?

Everyone's life is a picture,
Painted by only one person,
Life itself.

The picture shows everything you're doing,
And everything you have done.
But sometimes, Life gets tired.
And doesn't want to paint a picture.
So, Life sends problems to stop you.
If you give up, your picture is finished.
If you keep going, so does your picture.

So the question is:
How soon do you want to see your picture?
Do you want to see it now?
When it could be so much more?
Or later, when there's so much more than before?
It's your choice,
I'll keep going.
Will you do so too?