Movie Outing

Just had an outing at One Utama yesterday watching a movie....LOVE MATTERS! No climax! Don't watch... Buy DVD enuf!

How Do You Mend A Broken Heart. Ask Dr LaVide

There are four stages that one goes through on the road to forgiveness. Each stage is healthy and normal. Although the feelings associated may feel anything but normal. To review, I have listed the stages below.

Stage one: The first stage is hurt. When someone causes you deep pain as a result of betrayal or loss of trust, the natural response is to feel hurt. This stage is the result of feeling that you have been treated unfairly by someone you care deeply for.

Stage two: The second stage is anger. The memory of how painful you feel turns to thoughts of anger. You may even think about how you wish the other person would suffer as much as you are. Unlike hurt, which can leave you feeling vulnerable, anger can be very empowering. Some people may experience thoughts of revenge. This is also normal, it is when thoughts turn to actions or behaviors that can cause a person to do or say things they later regret.

Stage three: The third stage is healing. To arrive at healing, you will need to have gone through the first two stages. Stage three requires seeing the person who hurt you from a different perspective. Here you might try to see things through the other person’s eyes, trying to understand why and how he could have done the behaviors he did. Empathy is a necessary step to healing.

Stage four: The final stage is forgiveness. Forgiveness is when you invite the person who has wronged you back into your life. Although this doesn’t have to be in the literal sense, it can just be in your heart and mind without the other person being present. For most people the stage of forgiveness is very difficult to reach. Here you realize that the other person is fallible; that in a loving relationship each partner will hurt the other from time to time. This doesn’t mean you are a doormat, it means that you are able to rise above the behavior to see into the heart of the other person.

Your boyfriend/girlfriend is in stage 1 where you are at stage 4. This is why he/she is grieving and you feel helpless. In order to move forward, it will be necessary for you to join him/her in stage one. You can do this by setting aside some time when the two of you can talk without being interrupted. You can begin the process by telling him/her what it felt like for you to watch him/her choose others over you. Reliving the unpleasant emotions will not be an easy experience. Try not to avoid the painful feelings by jumping to stage four. Instead, allow your boyfriend/girlfriend to hear how his/her behavior affected you. Give him permission to tell you how he/she grieves over the knowledge of causing you pain.

After you both have shared your painful experience, you can then move to share with your boyfriend/girlfriend what it was like for you to be angry with him/her and his/her lover. Allow him/her time to understand your feelings. He/her may even have had similar feelings toward you for how he/her perceived you behaved and for him/her at how he/her perceived feeling trapped. It may be hard for each of you to hear the other’s experience, but it is a necessary step towards forgiveness.

After each of you have shared your own emotions and have heard the other’s experience, you are then ready to move on to stage three, healing. Stage three may take longer to move through then the first two stages as healing requires each person to ‘let go’ of the past and focus on the present. Also, stage three is an opportunity for the two of you to go through together. In order to go through this stage, talk about what steps or ritual you both will use to demonstrate healing. How will each of you mark the ‘letting go’ process? What steps will be taken to avoid this kind of situation in the future?

The experience of going through the stages of forgiveness with your boyfriend/girlfriend will bring the two of you closer together. By sharing feelings, showing empathy for the other, each of you has an opportunity to re-establish trust which can only strengthen your relationship and your love for each other.

Stage Play with Dupont Prevathon

Can you believe that I could sing and act on stage? I always thought it was for kids for their yearly concert. Never did I know I will dress up with props on the stage and perform. The only difference is, this time I'm being paid.


It was a night to remember – both LiT Performers and Stilettos were onstage to light up the launch of DuPont’s innovative pest control solution named Prevathon. The launch was held in a ballroom in the JW Marriott in Bukit Bintang on the 18th of February 2009.

As the audience dined, LiT Performers (me included) stepped up and entertained them with a mini musical based on the effectiveness of Prevathon at keeping crops healthy. It was a light-hearted show about farmers who are plagued by pests and sceptical of Prevathon, both of which are represented by the Bugster and Prevathon Man. Naturally, the Prevathon Man prevailed and the farmers lived happily ever after.


Stilettos then proceeded to spice up the night in their sassy black dresses, dazzling the audience with powerful vocals from all three members. They returned after a break for a second set of songs.

Ywenna provided the music for both performances. It was overall a very good exposure. And of course, I need to train more of my interaction with the audience.

How Did I Celebrate My Big 30

My 30th birthday is special. The day started at midnight with Dexter pouring 2 glasses of champagne served with an ice-cream cake (real ice cream okay!) on the dining table singing a sweet happy birthday melody to me. It was really touching. At the same moment MC, Deffrick, and Doris sent sweet messages at the stroke of midnight and with Sheau Yuh calling me and singing me a birthday song. I didn't even know that woman could sing. Surprised? hahahhaha... And even facebook, the walls are flooded with so many wishes. I was telling myself that I will have to spend a lot of time returning my thanks. And of course, I started designing and posted my pre-birthday celebration pics at Penang with my mom and sister on Facebook. Yeah. I neglected the blog but it's still not to late right?

We kept the birthday very mellow this year. Even in the office. Nobody knows that it's my birthday except for Zoe and Doris. We didn't make a big hooha as it's a Thursday night and I have a singing practice for the Prevathon gig. Furthermore, I didn't really like to have it in the office, especially this one!

I was surprised when I came back home after the practise seeing 2 boxes. 1 big and 1 small. Guess what's the big box consist? A sit up bench. The girls knows that I always wanted this. LOL... Yeah it was exactly the one that I wanted. And then I went on greedy. I wanted more. Therefore, I upgraded the item. (Girls, you both could start coming to my home and have ur part time gym work out here. Too bad, there is no fish spa around to suck the fats out of ur feet for u.) Thanks Zoe! Thanks Doris but I will not forget how you conned me into my underwear!

The second box consist of 2 shirts. Very nice. Deep down inside me I would personally think that this present is the best. How I wish it came before Chinese New Year hence I could show it around. Thanks Dexter! It's very sweet.

I have other presents too. A masquerade bottle from MC which created suspicion from Deffrick. Cufflings from Sonia. Cocktail Mixer and a straw hat from Lynn and Ming. Shirt and Teddy Bear from Deffrick. Thanks MC! Thanks Deff! Thanks Sonia! Thanks Lynn! Thanks Ming! It is very sweet of you.

We went out to gather on a Friday night instead. Frangi! Yeah! I had a lot of fun there. Thanks Dex for the sweet night out! I know you have spent a lot which is not necessary. Thanks everyone for coming - including Cyrus!

I had practise again on Saturday. And guess what I got this time? A Chocolate brownies from Coleen! It was so tasty that I even forget to snap a picture to remember how it looked like. All I know is that my stomach gulp it immediately with no second glance to spare!

And 2 more person that I should not miss to thank. My mom and sis. Thanks to you both for the sweet touching night! Wishing you both forever happiness and health!

All these events really make me to start reflecting on how should I start my life at 30. That's why you saw the resolutions that I have made on the previous entry.

I thank you all once again! May you be well and happy!

Starting 30 With Blessings

Being 30. Hmmm... everyone's telling me, welcome to the 30's club. Life should start for you. Yeah. I agree with all these. I should start taking responsibilities. Should start being responsible for myself, the love ones around me, kindness for people I do not know and what more, to love the people I hate too.

I should start planning what to do in the next few years so that I could see the results in another 20 years. Do I get to live till then? What will happen to me? Will I die? Dying in accident or dying in a hospital bed for sickness? I know people will die eventually and I will die too, however, I think I should start planning, taking action and deciding my life so that I would die fulfilling wishes and making people happy rather than disappointing them. Herewith is my resolutions (Would probably add more along the line):

1. Getting close to my family members
I have been neglecting my family members; my mom, my dad, my sister and my grandfather. I should at least make it a point that I see them more frequently with some good quality time.

2. Appreciating my loved ones and not to take them for granted
Spending quality time with them! Yeah. I am not an easy person to live with or to be my friend. What people say "siu yeh pei hei". I should learn how to start learning how to respect, appreciate and treat Dexter and Doris well and not taking them for granted. These are my soul mate and soul mates are not easy to find. How many soul mates would one have in a lifetime? New found friends like MC and Cyrus should not be taken for granted as well.

3. Start planning for retirement days
Yes. I should start planning for retirement days. So far by having 2 houses, I doubt would be sufficient enough for my retirement days. I should learn how to earn more. Even if I do not live till then to enjoy the retirement days fund, at least my loved ones would be able to live it for me.

4. Taking care of my health
Yes. This is an important part of my life. I should not be living recklessly. I should start controlling what I eat and drink. If not, how would I live till old age to see all these happen? I MUST HIT THE GYM! MUST NOT DRINK SO MUCH! CUT DOWN ON THE LATE NIGHTS!

5. Start penning down my daily activity in this blog
Yes. I have to start writing so that people who loves me, who misses me will remember me coz this blog would be the only way they will know more about the life of me.

At present, these are the 5 'Things to do' in life that have set priority in my life. And I am going to make it work to avoid living with regrets till my dying day! A bit emo but I think I should start take charge now. Not everyone gets to live till 30!